Dating other grad students
(Also, for the record, one year is still really short in most fields.
A pattern of one-year stays would be a problem, and aiming for a year is not the right goal if you’re trying to avoid that. But that doesn’t sound like it will apply here, since this is your first post-college job.) You asked about talking to your boss, and you could certainly try that, but if this is how your office works — and especially if this is how your field works, which sounds like the case — I’m doubtful that much will come of that. well, these are the hours and this is the culture, and there’s some risk of looking out of touch.
You probably know about the fields with truly crazy hours (law, politics, advocacy, PR, and a bunch of others), but there are a ton more where a few extra hours a week and the occasional weekend isn’t going to register on anyone’s radar (and thus won’t get mentioned when you ask an interviewer about work/life/balance).
So you want to really dig into the norms of any field you move toward — not just with your interviewers, but with people working in that industry.
Job hopping is about a pattern of behavior, not leaving quickly one time.
It does mean that it’ll be important that you stay at your next job for a while, but you don’t need to be miserable in this job out of some notion that you’re obligated to stay a year.
I just graduated college in May, and landed a full-time job in my hometown in the perfect field for me, thanks to your help with resumes and cover letters!
Boy, do I feel like my interviewer (who is now my boss) told me wrong.
Sometimes what you want is something a bit more low key, a more casual relationship instead of something long-term.
Maybe you’ve just gotten out of a relationship and the last thing you want is to jump on particular horse again.
Even in fields that don’t have particularly crazy hours, staying an extra hour two nights a week is pretty normal for many professional jobs (to the point that it wouldn’t even be considered working late). Getting a stern talking-to because you took an hour to respond to an email over the weekend is not normal or reasonable, assuming that there wasn’t something unusual going on where you should have known to be on high alert.
Getting woken up by work calls on holiday weekends — it could go either way.
So I’d start looking around and see if you can find a better fit.