Dating sight for lesbians
"On one hand, it's great that these girls have a venue in which to explore their sexuality safely, but on the other hand, I've learned a few times on first dates with women I met online that they've never been with a woman before," she says.
"This is not necessarily a problem, but sometimes it's hard to gauge if someone is feeling experimental versus being very much past that stage." A straight-identifying friend even told me she sometimes turns her Tinder to women-seeking-women to chat with women even though she'd "probably never do anything." Enough false-positive matches like that would turn anyone off.
After all, she says, it's easier to ask all of your friends what that cute girl's situation is when they all know her and probably have for years.
While that's obviously the same in straight dating, straight people don't have to figure out just how straight someone is, worry about navigating a relationship with someone who's not out, or potentially have to deal with someone using them as an experiment.
Lauren O'Reilly, Director of Marketing at OKCupid, says that of their current 10 million active users, women seeking women only comprise 7 percent of that.
My friend Laura, 27, who identifies as queer and has been out for about seven years, says that while these dating apps have allowed straight and questioning women to explore their sexualities more, they're also a risky endeavor for queer women.Meeting someone through your LGBTQ social network offers a level of Date Insurance that many queer women can't afford to do without.All this partner-vetting isn't to say all lesbians are serial monogamists.He says that dating apps rely so much on people who are nearby, and if those people aren't there immediately, people will leave the app.
"People are willing to travel to meet each other, but only so much," Chen writes.Lauren Kay, co-founder of the Dating Ring, says it is a bit of a chicken or egg situation.